First of all, the fact that you’re reading an article about ‘How To Be Alone On Valentine’s Day’ proves that you are not, in fact, alone at all. Whether this is your first Valentine’s Day single or your twentieth, whether you’ve been desperately searching for a relationship or are killing the game on your own, here are some ways to make your Valentine’s Day a good one.
1. Valentine’s Day is about love. Not diamonds. Not roses. Not the overwhelming collection of all things pink in the Walgreens holiday aisle. Valentine’s Day is about telling the people you love that you love them. Think about this quote: “If you had only one week to live, who would you call, what would you say, and what are you waiting for?” Who have you forgotten to tell you love them? How’s your best friend from high school? How are your brothers? Sisters? Parents? Grandparents? Remember who is important to you, then tell them they are.
2. Okay, so the phone call lasts twenty minutes. Maybe an hour, tops. But now you have twenty-three more before this Valentine’s misery is over. Or, to put it better, you have the whole rest of the day to give love to others! There are a lot of people in this world who could use some love. Volunteer at a local animal or homeless shelter. Walk around town and pass out free flowers to strangers. Pick up the tab for someone else’s meal. Leave random messages of kindness on bathroom stalls, mailboxes, or doorways. Tell someone that they look beautiful today. Spread warmth – it has a funny way of coming back to you.
3. Self-love is just as important. Take yourself on a date. What have you always wanted to do? Draw a bath for yourself and use the good products that you spent way too much money on. Go shopping. Browse a book store. Watch the new Star Wars movie for the second or eighth time. Get some good ass coffee. Practice mindful eating. Color. People watch. Travel somewhere new. Dance in your room. Start a new project. Hint: Ryan Reynolds' Deadpool comes out on Friday the 12th.
4. Make time to be outside. Research shows that time spent in nature provides huge benefits to mood, cognitive function, and the body’s stress relief reaction. Go on a walk. Invite one of your other single friends (preferably one who owns a dog). Whether you find somewhere to hike, play, picnic, or sunbathe, the fresh air, relaxing sounds and good company will remind you to pause and stop to smell the (lack of) roses.
5. Feeling down? Make sure you do all the good things to your body and mind that will help you stay in a good mood all day. Yoga and meditation are a great way to center yourself. Make a list of everything you love about yourself. Start a gratitude journal. Write a therapeutic letter to someone who needs to hear what you’re saying. Spend time with those feelings.
6. So you’re like the rest of us and would rather bottle up your feelings? Go for it. Netflix is the next-best coping method if Valentine’s Day just isn’t going your way. Go for comedy and sitcoms. They’re fast-paced, Michael Scott never makes any sense, and they’re only twenty minutes long. There’s absolutely nothing wrong with burrito-blanketing your way through Valentine’s Day.
7. Eight episodes of Friends later, there are plenty of other ways to stay distracted. Mind games like crossword puzzles, sudoku, Robot Unicorn Attack (look it up) are great ways to keep your mind and hands occupied without stressing yourself out. Freerice.com and rainymood.com are great ways to start.
8. Look hot. Today’s not the day to throw on your sweats and feel bad for yourself. Put on real clothes. Wear cute underwear. Do your hair if you’re into that. Take a shower.
9. The gym, the gym, the gym. Go for a run. Working your muscles and releasing endorphins can only mean good things for your body and mood. Put on your favorite upbeat playlist and kick it into gear.
10. Speaking of playlists, here are a few songs from a damn good (my) feminist playlist:
11. Let your roommates be your Valentines. Leave them each a rose, or a box of chocolates, or booze. Do the dishes. Leave love notes around the house. Make cupcakes. They’ll appreciate you, and that might be exactly what you’re looking for.
12. Order takeout. Eat all of it. You don’t have to share; you’re single, dammit.
13. Masturbate. #justsaying
14. The number one way to be alone on Valentine’s Day is not to be. Invite over a friend. Get on Tinder if that’s your thing. Message someone on Facebook. Get out and about, and surround yourself with other beating hearts. Just because you’re alone on Valentine’s Day does not mean you have to be lonely