An open letter to all of our loved ones this holiday season

Dear Family and Friends, In the coming months, levels of family interaction will be at an all time high. If we thought that Thanksgiving was a lot to handle, be prepared to double that family bonding with presents, cookie baking and a smattering of a few out-of-state cousins. For us college kids, sitting at the dining room table among  older cousins announcing engagements or the cute annoying little ones, it seems that we have nothing to bring to the table conversationally. We spend most of our days in the library or in class and we rarely find guys good enough to take us to Gratzi nevertheless consider marrying.  You have to understand that as college students we are in a time of our lives that are so confusing, tiring, exciting and terrifying that it is challenging to articulate.  You'd think we'd have a lot to talk about but no one wants to hear about our emotional breakdown following a 37 hours cram session.

Our lack of life direction seems rather confusing for you all, which is probably why we are constantly bombarded with the same loop of questions.  How do you like college?  How are classes going? Seeing anyone special?  But having exhausted these within the first 15 seconds of the conversation, our relatives and family friends unintentionally decide to go right for the gut and ask “So, what are you going to do with your life?” As individuals who are barely over the fact that they cannot legally attend summer camp, this question is more then daunting. We find ourselves rehearsing these answers in the car on the way to grandmas because we fear the looks of pity when we don’t have a definite answer, laughing nervously as we hope the interrogation of what exactly it means to be a communications major will end.

So family and friends, hear our plea. We are forced everyday at school to stress over our futures and have only these four years to make decisions that will determine the rest of our lives. To say that this is stressful would be a complete understatement. Instead of asking us the questions we have ask ourselves everyday, ask us about what is happening in our lives right now, like what we found interesting in class or what books we are reading during our 3 weeks of freedom.  Sometimes being able to leave all of the haunting questions of adulthood in Ann Arbor, can be a gift in itself.


College students


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